You got invited to your friend’s wedding 🙁
But the RSVP button is totally MIA!
Or maybe you CAN click it, but then you wanna see who else is going and… nothing. The guest list just doesn’t load.
I’m losing my MIND!
And I’m not gonna lie, this is one of those Facebook glitches that makes you wanna throw your phone across the room. You’re trying to be a responsible adult and actually RESPOND to an invitation like a normal person, but Facebook’s like “nah, not today.”
What the actual fuck, Zuckerberg?!
The Missing RSVP Button Disaster
So let’s talk about the MOST annoying version of this problem first – when the RSVP buttons just straight-up aren’t there.
You open the event. You see all the details. You know when it is, where it is, what it’s about.
But WHERE THE HELL is the Going button?
This makes zero sense!
It’s like Facebook decided you don’t deserve to have social plans. So here’s what’s actually happening when those buttons disappear on you.
Why This Bullshit Happens
The Event Got Deleted or Made Private – Sometimes the host changes privacy settings AFTER sending invites, and boom – your invitation becomes useless. Facebook won’t tell you this happened, you just get to sit there clicking nothing like an idiot.
You’re Not Actually Invited – Harsh truth but sometimes you’re viewing a public event where you can only click Interested not Going. It’s like being able to window shop but not actually enter the store, deadass.
Facebook’s App Is Being a Dumbass – The mobile app especially loves to just… not show buttons sometimes for NO REASON. And Facebook won’t tell you which problem it is! You just gotta play detective like you’re solving some kind of digital murder mystery.
Browser Cache Issues – Your browser is holding onto old corrupted data and refusing to load the new buttons. It’s like trying to read a book with half the pages stuck together.
The Event Host Blocked You – Awkward, but it happens. If someone blocks you after creating an event you were invited to, the buttons just vanish. Facebook treats you like you never existed, no cap.
When “Going” Isn’t Even an Option
Here’s something that’ll make you lose your mind…
Some events ONLY show Interested as an option. Not Going. Not Maybe. Just Interested.
What kind of setup is this?!
So you’re stuck in this weird limbo where you can’t actually RSVP yes, you can only express mild curiosity like you’re swiping on Tinder! This usually happens with public events that are open to everyone. The host set it up that way intentionally because they don’t want randos from the internet showing up.
But Facebook doesn’t make it clear to YOU what the deal is. So you’re sitting there thinking the button is broken when actually it just doesn’t exist for you. Cool, very intuitive design Facebook!
The Invisible Guest List Problem
Okay but let’s say you MANAGED to RSVP (congratulations on that minor miracle). Now you wanna see who else is going because you’re trying to figure out if your ex will be there so you know whether to wear your revenge dress.
But the guest list? Completely blank!
It’s so frustrating!
Or maybe it shows a number like “47 going” but when you click to see WHO those 47 people are… absolutely nothing loads. Just a spinning circle mocking you for eternity.
Three Reasons Your Guest List Vanished
Privacy Settings Strike Again – The event host can hide the guest list from everyone except themselves. So you’re not crazy, it’s intentionally hidden. They probably think it makes the event more “exclusive” but really it just makes everyone confused.
You’re Not Connected Enough – Sometimes you can only see people on the guest list who are YOUR friends. Everyone else appears as just a number. Facebook’s privacy algorithm decides you don’t deserve to know who’s attending, which is super helpful when you’re trying to avoid specific people.
Facebook’s Loading Issues – The page just refuses to load the list even though it technically exists. Refresh 47 times and pray. And here’s the kicker – even if you’re the EVENT HOST, sometimes you can’t see your own damn guest list because Facebook’s interface decides to have a stroke!
What Actually Works (Maybe)
Alright so after HOURS of troubleshooting this garbage, here are the things that sometimes work. And I say “sometimes” because lowkey nothing is guaranteed with Facebook’s broken-ass platform.
For Missing RSVP Buttons:
Clear your browser cache and cookies – I know it sounds basic but I’m not playing, this fixes it like 30% of the time. Go to your browser settings, find Clear Browsing Data, select Cookies and Cached Images, and nuke everything.
Try a different browser – If Chrome is being a dick, try Firefox or Safari or whatever. Sometimes one browser just refuses to cooperate while another works perfectly fine.
Use desktop instead of mobile app – The app is buggy as hell. Log into facebook.com on your computer and try there. Desktop version has way fewer glitches for events.
Log out and log back in – Classic “turn it off and on again” energy but it works sometimes. Your session might be corrupted and a fresh login can fix it.
Check if you were actually invited – Go to your Events page and see if it shows up under Invites. If it’s not there, you weren’t really invited and that’s why you can’t RSVP.
Still not working?
Message the host directly and ask them to re-invite you. Or just text them your RSVP like it’s the year 2010. Sometimes the old ways are the only ways that work.
For the Guest List That Won’t Load:
Refresh multiple times – Sometimes it takes 3-4 refreshes before Facebook gets its shit together. Just keep hammering that refresh button until something appears.
View on desktop – Guest lists load way better on computers than mobile. The mobile app treats guest lists like optional information instead of the main reason people check events.
Ask the host to make the list visible – They might not realize it’s hidden. Send them a quick message explaining that nobody can see who’s attending. Most hosts will change the settings once they know.
Accept that you might never see it – Some hosts intentionally keep it private and there’s nothing you can do. You can still attend the event, you just won’t know who else is going until you show up. Fr fr, that’s just how it is sometimes.
When the Host Screws It Up
Real talk – sometimes this isn’t Facebook’s fault. It’s the event host not understanding privacy settings.
They mess up constantly!
They create an event, set it to Private by accident, then wonder why nobody’s responding. Or they leave the guest list hidden without realizing it. Facebook’s event interface is confusing as hell and doesn’t explain what each setting does. But nobody reads instructions anyway, so here we are.
Why This Never Gets Fixed
You wanna know why this has been broken for YEARS? Facebook doesn’t make money from events. Simple as that. They make money from ads and keeping you scrolling. Events are just a feature they keep around because removing it would cause a shitstorm, but actually fixing it? Nah, that takes developer time away from shoving more ads in your face.
Bottom Line on This Mess
If you can’t RSVP to Facebook events or see the guest list, you’re definitely not alone. This affects literally millions of people and Facebook clearly has no plans to fix it anytime soon.
They really don’t care…
Your best bet is trying the fixes above – clear cache, use desktop, log out and back in, try different browsers. One of those will probably work. And if nothing works? Message the host directly like we did before social media existed. Sometimes the old-school approach is the only reliable one.
Just remember that Facebook has bigger priorities right now. The Metaverse (lol). Instagram Reels. Whatever else they’re working on that nobody asked for. Meanwhile basic functionality like “clicking a button to say you’ll attend an event” just doesn’t work half the time, and we all just accept it and deal with broken notifications while we’re at it.
And if your events keep having issues, maybe check if your Facebook page posts are even reaching anyone because that’s another thing Facebook broke and never fixed.
Share this with anyone who’s tired of Facebook’s broken event system and Zuckerberg’s neglected features 🙂
